1. Allow events to change you. You have to be willing to grow. Growth is different from something that happens to you. You produce it. You live it. The prerequisites for growth: the openness to experience events and the willingness to be changed by them.
– Bruce Mau’s An Incomplete Manifesto for Growth
I think the hardest part about being willing to grow is being willing to face your previous failures. Recognizing that you fell short, that you failed someone is a hard thing to own up to, but when we realize that, what is there to do but try to improve? We can’t change or control events that happen to us, but we can control how we react, how we grow, and how we become better people in spite of them.